How to Be More Self Compassionate

Do you ever find yourself going through a challenging time and trying to push past feelings of sadness, stress, fear or anxiety?

Maybe you feel like those negative emotions are becoming inconvenient and you just wish you could by-pass the tears and get back to feeling like your old self again?

I was amazed to find out how many people are walking around with a brave face every day, doing their best to cover up their challenges. So many of us try to act like everything is fine and are scared of showing 'weakness' for fear of being judged or getting the wrong response. 

It took me quite a while to learn this first hand, but the reality is, when we share our honest journey with our family and friends, we are opening ourselves up to the opportunity to receive more support. Hiding behind a smile and burying our pain only means that Pandora's box will eventually bust open and result in a lot more tears or stress. In fact, owning our emotions and being able to sit with them is an important act of self compassion.

Remember to acknowledge that ALL emotions are valuable and every part of our story is important. 

While we'd all love to feel happy 100% of the time, negative emotions are our body’s clever way of communicating when something isn’t right and needs to change. All feelings need to be acknowledged and felt and there’s no such thing as bad feelings. If they were bad for us, we wouldn’t be meant to feel them! If you feel scared or anxious, don’t be so hard on yourself. Allow your body to feel the feeling. That’s right, feelings are meant to be FELT. 

Here's one of my favourite technique to practice tuning into my feelings:


  • Recognise your feelings
  • Acknowledge and accept how you feel 
  • Investigate where you feel this emotion in your body
  • Nurture yourself by doing something to comfort and reassure yourself

Give yourself permission to just be and listen to what your body is telling you.

What needs changing?

What is holding you back?

How can you allow yourself to heal?

Joyous emotions are wonderful but it is in those tough emotions that growth and healing lies. As it is often said, ‘suffering is life’s greatest teacher.’

To anyone having a hard time, know that this too shall pass, and in the meantime I am sending the biggest ball of loving energy your way! 


Love, Jess x 

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