"Comparison is the thief of joy.” - I think this quote from Theodore Roosevelt is pretty fitting for this post because I wanted to share a little story and some advice around self-comparison.
When I was in high school, I would always worry about not being the best and fearing I'd disappear into someone else’s shadow. I would compare myself in school to people who got better grades than me, compare myself to other kids in my dance class, art class, drama class... I honestly was just so worried about going unnoticed that I felt like I completely tied my self worth and identity to my skills.
The thing about self comparison is that while it might make you work your butt off to be your absolute best, you’re always looking over your shoulder worrying that someone better, more skilled, prettier, smarter, richer, taller, more ANYTHING is going to come along at any moment and steal your light.
Here’s the thing! Are you ready? Okay, it’s taken me YEARS to learn this but the truth is that comparison is all in our heads…
Sure, there will ALWAYS be someone you can compare yourself to and if you look hard enough and feed your own insecurities, you will find someone who is “better” than you in any area of your life (looks, wealth, charisma, popularity, skills etc). But - and that’s a big BUT - it is irrelevant! You were put on this earth to be you. We are all on our own journey and here to do something unique. When we start embracing what makes us unique and focus on our own passions and purpose, the need for self-comparison honestly starts to disappear.
So with that being said, I wanted to leave you lovelies with a little food for thought. “A flower does not think of competing with the flower next to it. It just blooms."
Love, Jess x